Stop asking me ‘what about men?’ 

Everyone who follows my blog knows that my best work is written in rage, or port. But Christmas has gone now so no more port. 
Well, at least I still have rage. So back to that. 

Recently I have been getting increasingly frustrated with ‘whataboutery’ every single time I write or speak about women or girls. 
For those of you who don’t know what that word means, ‘whataboutery’ is when someone responds to a difficult issue or question with a counter issue or question that completely derails the conversation. 

Mai: My research focussed on the murder of women in Yemen 
Randomer: uh, this is a bit sexist. What about the murder of men in Yemen? Don’t you care about men? 

Example 2
Pam: I’m really upset with you for stealing from my purse 
Mel: What about that time you stole from the local shop? You’re not innocent either, you know! 
Pam: I was 9. 

Familiar with that? Yep? Thought you might be. Sometimes reminds me of gaslighting. 
Okay, so back to the rage. Rage that I need to put in context for this blog to make a jot of sense. 

Almost 5 years ago, my father in law died after we had tried everything to help him and begged every agency and service for help. We got the dreaded phone call from police to say they had found a body. It was his. We had to go and identify him. He was a very vulnerable adult struggling with addiction, homelessness and a very complicated trauma history. 

At his wake, my Husband and I decided to set up a charity for male mental health and well-being and we named it ‘The Eaton Foundation’ (TEF).

(Someone once laughed at me, ‘Bit narcissistic of you isn’t it, naming a foundation after yourself?’ and then went every shade of red whilst I told them it was my late Father in Law’s name.) 

So in 2013 we founded the charity, of which I am still the Chairperson. The charity only supports adult men. We grew exponentially. I mean – from like 10 men to 150 men in one year. In the second year of operation I managed to secure over £270k of funding and funded the renovation of a huge old derelict building which we turned into the first male mental health and well-being centre in the UK. 

My husband runs it on the day-to-day, along with his staff and volunteers. We now employ 6 people and have a further 9 volunteers. We see hundreds of men a year who benefit from completely free, lifelong support including counselling, benefits advice, food parcels, housing advocacy, legal advice, IT suite, music and band practice, employment clubs and training courses, fitness clubs, art therapy and so on. Some guys have been coming every day for years. Our clientele is between 18 and 85 years old from every walk of life you can imagine. 

Why am I telling you this? 

Because in those 5 years, I have NEVER received the amount of abuse and ‘whataboutery’ that I get for my work and research with women and girls. 
Most of you know me for my work with women and girls and my controversial tumble into CSE. My PhD focusses on the victim blaming of women and girls in society which includes one of the largest ever literature reviews of every factor in society that supports victim blaming of women and girls (I do mean every factor I could find evidence for – from porn to Hinduism). 

I have a career history in rape centre management and criminal justice management of vulnerable and intimidated witness programmes, which is where I built my experience and knowledge of sexual violence, homicides, trafficking and other serious crimes across my courts. 

I launched a study last year, exploring the many different forms of victim blaming women and girls can experience. Over 700 people responded. My other recent studies have included interviewing women who have been blamed for rape and abuse, interviewing therapists and support workers who work with women who blame themselves for being abused or attacked and a complex study in which I developed and validated a new psychometric measure of victim blaming of women. 
I honestly cannot express how much whataboutery I get. 

Here are some real examples: 

‘Don’t you think you’re being sexist by only writing about women in this article?’

‘This article is good but where are your studies on men?’ 

‘I don’t condone murder but don’t you think you are gender biased, only caring about the murders of women?’ 

‘You can tell the psychologist who wrote this study is a sexist bitch who hates men’

‘This study was ridiculous. All you care about is women! What about men?’

‘You should have your PhD removed. This is so sexist. None of your research is about men.’

‘By only caring about women, you basically say that all men are rapists.’

‘This is great Jessica! But I wonder if you can now build one of these for boys and men and why they aren’t included in the first place?’

‘Why do you only focus on women? Men can get abused as well, you know!’

‘What about men, cunt?’

Honestly, I could go on forever and ever. 

In fact, I did one study where there was a free text question at the end and a whopping 9% of respondents chose to use that box to criticise me for not researching men. I say whopping because the free text box didn’t even ask them a question about that and 63 people still managed to use the box to whack in some ‘whataboutery’. 
Not only that but a further 14% (over 90 people) left comments that were just plain nasty or abusive. One guy told me that my work was shit and he hopes I fail my PhD. And then left his full name and job title. He was an academic at a university. In my field. He even put some kisses on. 
And what perplexes me about all of this, is that I have no such experiences of running TEF. 

I can’t tell you about the hundreds of messages or tweets we get asking ‘what about women?’ – because it’s never happened. 

I don’t have any stories about the times we got sent a tonne of abuse when we conducted research with general public in the community about male mental health stigma – because it’s never happened. 
I can switch over to the TEF twitter account right now and write literally anything about men and nothing bad will ever happen. Our Facebook page has thousands of followers and we never get threats, abuse or whataboutery. 

Fair enough, my Twitter is currently at about 4.5k followers but my teeny tiny Facebook page is only on a few hundred followers and I get between 10-20 abusive messages and comments a week – almost exclusively comments about me focusing on women and girls – which usually results in me being called a ‘fat, ugly feminist cunt’ or something along those eloquent lines. 

Recently this has all caused me to reflect. 

Why don’t I get any abuse when I speak and write about men and boys? 
Why am I hailed? 

Why did we win 6 charity awards and over £300k in the first 18 months of operation? 

Why did I end up on every TV channel and radio in the UK? Why can I launch studies and campaigns and videos and appeals for TEF about male mental health and receive ZERO whataboutery comments?

And why do I get shouted down if I even dare post one tweet about violence against women or rape statistics or murders of women by partners? 

Why do I get hundreds of messages and tweets every week asking me:
‘But what about men?’ 

And actually, this isn’t rocket science. This is uncomfortable but it’s real talk:

Women are socialised into their gender roles (gender roles are harmful, narrow, stereotypical characteristics and expectations assigned to males and females to conform to a societal norm) to not even possess a shred of the sense of entitlement that men have. Women do not read a campaign about male mental health or male abuse or male cancers and furiously tweet back ‘what about women, you cunt?!’ because they didn’t think about themselves when they read it. They didn’t see the campaign as two fingers up to women.

Perfect example: Movember. 

Have you EVER in your life seen women kicking off that Movember is sexist? Or that the campaign should include women? Or that focusing on testicular cancer is exclusionary? No. Have you fuck. 

Second perfect example: Male suicide rates. 

We know that the leading cause of death in young men aged 18-35 is suicide. This is the strongest symptom of a patriarchal society where emotionless males struggle to cope with trauma and feelings, can’t open up, don’t feel safe to talk and become completely overwhelmed by emotions they are taught are ‘feminine’, which further induces shame and stigma. 
In all my years I have never seen women jump on those campaigns yelling ‘women commit suicide too, you know!!’ Or ‘what about women?’ 

Switch it over. Women’s marches. Pussy hats. IWD. Counting dead women. VAWG strategies. Women’s health screening. Women’s reproductive health. Women’s mental health. Rape campaigns. #metoo. 

There is ALWAYS someone saying ‘what about men though?’ under all of those issues. It’s as sure as taxes and death. 

Like a depressing new catchphrase nobody wants:

There’s only three things you can be certain of in life: taxes, death and some randomer yelling ‘what about men?’ every time you talk about women’s issues.’

‘Whataboutery’ comes from a place of misogyny. An arrogant, derailing technique used to respond to a campaign, video, research study, intervention, organisation or communication that screams ‘I don’t care about women, talk about men!!’ 
And the proof is in the pudding for me. Because when I do all those things with a focus on boys and men, I’m a fucking hero. But when I do all of those things and focus on girls and women, I’m a fat, ugly feminist cunt. 

So I need to explain something else. This is not about equality. ‘Whataboutery’ has nothing to do with equality. It’s not about reminding us that men suffer too. Social issues aren’t equal. 

When I write a tweet about women being murdered or raped, I didn’t forget men. I didn’t forget they could be murdered or raped. I didn’t accidentally miss them off my tweet. I simply CHOSE to talk about the experiences of females. It is not helpful, or clever, or promoting ‘equality’ to write to a researcher specialising in women’s studies and tell her in three paragraphs why she should focus on men. 

It is not useful to ‘send a gentle reminder than men can get raped too, you know’. 
If you’re reading this and you know you have done this to someone, please think twice before doing it again. It’s not helpful. It’s derailing. 
We do not need to centre men in every conversation we have. Women and girls are valid entities, independent from men.
We need to get to a point where we can talk about women’s issues and get the same level of respect we get when we talk about men’s issues. 
Until then, your ‘Whataboutery’ is unwelcome here. 

What about that? 

Written by Jessica Eaton 


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1,009 thoughts on “Stop asking me ‘what about men?’ 

  1. I don´t have the ´normal´ female psychological make-up because I was bought up by a man. I admit I lack many of the finer female qualities because of this, but the flip side is that I expect to be treated equally. I am constantly appalled when men and women don´t even recognise misogynistic or sexist behaviour. It has been very difficult trying to teach my boy children respect for women when my husband is socialised to treat women differently to men. Lovely article, Thank you

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  2. I’m certainly not saying that there isn’t a degree of this going on; but your two key examples aren’t like for like here. So it’s difficult to say whether or not your conclusions hold.

    You are comparing charitable work inspired by personal experience with a paper that sets out to make conclusions about societal trends. So obviously people’s responses will be different. One is action, the other is academia.

    In the case of the study on victim blaming, I suspect that the reason that people responded in this way because they perceived it as setting out to prove that women specifically are subjected to victim blaming by collecting anecdotal reports from women, without assessing whether or not men are also subjected to victim blaming. Whether they are right or wrong, that would make their complaints an attempt to critique what they perceived to be the goals and methodology of the study.

    That won’t happen in the same way with charitable work, because by helping people you aren’t saying anything except that these specific people need help. So the comparison falls apart a little.


    1. So the men’s only mental health facility she built is suggesting only men suffer from mental health? And even if anyone has this perception she stil isn’t being criticised for focusing on one gender.

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    2. I doubt you have the qualifications necessary to issue a challenge to this author. You sound like another entitled, mediocre man who can’t even be bothered to read the article.

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      1. It’s painful to read the article. What-about-ism is ABOUT hypocrisy. But many ego maniacs just want their little echochambers.


      1. Feminists: Feminism is about fighting sexism and harmful gender expectations and helps men too.
        Also feminists: Go away, men. Mansplaining.


  3. could it be that men simply don’t like your phrasing? where you help men you don’t have to blame anyone for mental health, where you’re helping women with “rape culture” you’re stating ‘men commit more physical abuse toward women than women toward men’ which is fair enough but at the same time divisive.

    i wonder how men and women would respond to equal articles.

    but “what about” begs the question, why address this as a different issue for women than it is for men? if the plan is to abolish domestic violence completely. have we established that the causes for domestic violence toward women vs toward men are different? do they require different measures to stop?

    as for your perfect examples they’re actually very poor examples, male suicide rates are in comparison to female suicide rates. i don’t think the “ability to display emotion” plays a role, women are more likely to attempt suicide than men. men are just more likely to use violent means to do the job, which makes male suicides more likely to be successful.
    movember has been called sexist… a lot. i think you’d be hard pressed to find something exclusive to men thats not called sexist.

    good luck in your endeavors to help people and i hope you do well, but if you’re going to divide the sexes for seemingly no reason i can’t blame anyone for questioning why.

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    1. Glen…no. Seriously, no. It is not up to a woman writing an article about women and about the struggles and issues that women face to make sure that men don’t have their feelings hurt by the phrasing. When reading an article about women being raped by men, why in the hell does the writer need to go out of her way to acknowledge that not all men are rapists? Have you raped anyone? No? Great! The whole world does not have to acknowledge that fact and make it about you. Why don’t you see how selfish it is of any man to read an article about the issues women face and immediately run to the comments section to talk about men? Seriously, Glen. Be better.

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      1. Oh look. Another feminist who has nothing to offer in a disagreement except ad hominems and shaming language.


    2. Seriously Glen you just suggested that we shouldn’t mention that men rape women because that’s blaming them and it’s divisive? So firstly, you’re a rape apologist and secondly, you’re victim blaming. Any man that actually has respect for women is as appalled by rape as women are, and doesn’t feel the need to get defensive. Amazingly enough, a man who has genuine respect for women, of whom there are plenty, doesn’t feel personally attacked when women say they don’t want to be raped or blamed for raped, because he knows he is not a rapist, or a rape apologist.
      As for ‘dividing the sexes for seemingly no reason’ well you are deliberately and spectacularly missing the point, whilst perfectly demonstrating it. People like you are dividing the sexes by making false accusations of sexism and demanding that women be silenced. Being abused for doing research is unacceptable and divisive. The whole point of the article is that Jessica works to benefit both men and women, but only her work to support women is criticized abusively. What you are doing is gaslighting, falsely accusing women of what it is that you are guilty of—sexism.

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  4. By framing it as one sex at a time divides people, and men obviously are far more defensive than females when they feel like they are being singled out (whether or not they actually are). The fact that so many people abuse you weekly means the good things you have to say are not getting through to a huge number of people. If we can rephrase things so that we drop the amount of abuse you receive, this would mean more people are listening and taking your facts on board. This would be a win for everyone.

    Could we address both females and men at the same time, or simply remove gender from the discussion? Could it just be “Humans who suffer mental illness”, “Humans who suffer domestic violence” ?

    I would be very curious if you did some A and B testing on an identical study/article, and simply change the phrasing to remove gender from the discussion. Then log how much abuse you receive vs view count.

    The end goal should be reaching as many people as possible. If only women listen to you about rape and men not only don’t listen, but they actively abuse you this means your work is being wasted when it could reach so many more more people.

    We should be working together as humans by avoiding this divide that almost always occurs on these women gendered studies/articles. it would be great if men didn’t abuse you and actually read what you had to say, but it seems that they don’t in many circumstances.

    What do you think?

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    1. I’m curious as to why you consistently refer to “men and females”, rather than “males and females” or “men and women”?

      That seems really odd, grammatically speaking, and dehumanising.

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    2. What a spectacular example of victim blaming and gaslighting. If only we would rephrase what we say to pussyfoot around the egos of misogynists, we might be allowed to speak about the violence against us without being abused, but only if we fudge the facts so it sounds like it’s not predominantly male violence against women. Apparently we deserve to be abused for asking questions about rape, abuse and violence.

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  5. I stopped reading this article once I read;

    “Everyone who follows my blog knows that my best work is written in rage, or port. But Christmas has gone now so no more port.
    Well, at least I still have rage. So back to that”.

    Personally, I believe that my best writing is due to my passion and my ability to control the need for rage and you are surprised that people ask you about abuse against men when you make a statement like that?

    It is fact that abusive men are extremely immature and they lack intelligence but women actively working to criminalize abused men because abuse is a woman issue that isn’t a very clever move.

    If abuse was seen as a human issue, not a gender and as a result abused men received the same help, understanding and grace as women do it would result in men naturally defending women that are victims of abuse and educating other men that abuse against women is never OK. If you would like evidence of this research the culture in Iceland but I have no doubt that you won’t look at any of my recommendations, as this might directly go against all of your misguided feminist views.


      1. How is this a constructive reply? What does this achieve other than further cementing both of your positions?


      2. I can’t reply to them all. There are absolutely hundreds. Look at how many I haven’t replied to.


      3. I’m not sure what the point of publishing this article is then. You have invited discussion and have many great responses. What is your goal?


      4. I object to your gender role specific based response.

        Men do not exist.
        Women do not exist.
        Only humans exist. Learn it, love it, live by it..or else.


      5. Well just look at all the males doing exactly what she describes in the article. Not even ironically either. They really believe she isn’t talking about what they are doing.

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      6. When you say you are the founder and chairperson of an organization, it sounds like you conceived of the idea and then built the whole thing….on your own.
        I am the *cofounder* of a business that I built with 3 other cofounders. I would never formally or casually represent myself as the founder, because I’d feel fraudulent in uttering such a lie.
        I get the feeling Mr. Eaton (the one who built the organization) is the individual responsible for the whole thing. I bet he registered you as a “trustee”. I think it’s bs that you stamp your name onto the success and merit and mission of his achievement, which would likely have been fulfilled without you in the spousal picture.


      7. I built the organisation, wrote the entire constitution, got all of the funding, wrote all of the policies and then supported my husband to learn how to work in the sector which he had no background in. After two years, I found him a salary and he took over as CEO.
        I still write all of the large bids and I am still the chairperson. I still have control of the banking and governance of the organisation.
        Ask him yourself. He’s easy to find on social media.

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    1. I didn’t need to read the whole article, I was referred to this article by a woman that says abuse is a man’s issue, as men as the default abuser and her recommendations are to brand all men as abusive until they can prove that they are not abusive. I followed the link that she sent to me against my better judgement and the opening line to this article told me everything that I needed to know and by the way, I have no intention of proving that I’m not an abusive man, as I know the truth about my own character.

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      1. Mr Duncan, you have clearly missed the point. She is saying when she studies and writes about men’s problem women do not complain. When she writes about women’s problems men complain. She puts this down to the misogynistic culture in our patriarchal society, where men feel that everything should and is about them. Women are not allowed to have a voice, or complain, or act and look other than decided by men. Men are allowed to do all of the above. If women speak out they are immediately denigrated. Its a very clear article. Had you read the whole article you might have learnt something useful. Clearly

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    2. Duncan, I have researched the culture in Iceland, and I’m still not sure why you wouldn’t think that Domestic Violence isn’t a gendered crime. Women in Iceland are just as abused as elsewhere in the world, despite their equality laws. Icelandic courts simply take complaints more seriously and provide greater support for women and children of abuse.

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  6. I didn’t need to read the whole article, I was referred to this article by a woman that says abuse is a man’s issue, as men as the default abuser and her recommendations are to brand all men as abusive until they can prove that they are not abusive. I followed her the link that she sent to me against my better judgement and the opening line to this article told me everything that I needed to know and by the way, I have no intention of proving that I’m not an abusive man, as I know the truth about my own character.

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    1. Shut up. No ones accusing you of being an abuser by default, but I find it interesting that you perceived it that way. Why are you so defensive when it comes to women complaining about sexual abuse and other issues that pertain to our safety? Every time a woman speaks out against sexual assaults and harassment, men always come in to silence her..Pfft. The fact is, men are physically stronger and can easily over- power a woman. How else do you even think it could happen otherwise? That’s why fathers worry about their daughters going out at night..if you are not this type of man, than it doesn’t apply to you and you need to just move on unless you can add some solutions, concern and support or constructive conversation. I won’t hold my breath because you sound like the typical, defensive, shut up, you’re ruining our need to out up and shut up like you butches used to type male.

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      1. I find your use of the phrase shut up to be verbally violent and offensive.

        Additionally it is hypocritical to attempt to silence a critic as the first line in your response and while then attempting to complain about the act of critics attempting to silence feminist voices.

        Practice what you preech next time.

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      2. It’s not just physical strength where men have the advantage. In our still – yet to be totally overturned – patriarchal society, men can control women in many ways extra to the physical control. I’m thinking about controlling expectations, experiences, aspirations as much as it is controlling us physically.

        And I hope there isn’t a reply that says “yes, but what about the ball breaking women CEOs who control men?”… Just, don’t.


    2. Ok so now we can judge and comment on entire pieces of work based on just the opening line? What a marvellous skill you have. Perhaps you judge your own character with same cursory glance. What magical powers of deduction.
      I do believe this is the ‘judge all women on the character of one woman’ approach to misogyny. I love the irony of your attitude being precisely the same as that of the woman you denigrate in your first line.

      An important point, if you can manage to read this far past my first line—consider that some women are so defensive and assume that all men are potential abusers because they have been so abused and under threat that they fear for their lives and can’t afford to take risks trusting men. A reality that is tragic for us all and a reason (as if protecting women from violence for our own sakes wasn’t enough reason) for men to stand with us against rape culture and say enough is enough, rapists and abusers are causing pain to both women and men, directly or indirectly.


  7. Thank you for this article. I think it really highlights the situation well. I mentioned to my boss recently that i had started a women’s support network at work annd the first comment was about how it would be viewed if it was a men’s only group. Also the assumption was that it was just to be filled with rage against men… which couldn’t have been further from the truth!

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  8. Thank you for a great article and the insight you have given into the different responses you have received when representing both genders in the public discourse.

    It must be hard not to be crushed by the weight of negativity that is out there and to feel like you’re screaming your lungs against a wall that doesn’t seem to hear but good on you for continuing to doing so.

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    1. Thank you for being supportive. It does get very exhausting and honestly it just makes me really sad. Its hard to accept the fact that we will always be considered to not have any worth what-so- ever to most men we are just here to serve. 😞. We are not even allowed to complain about being raped. That’s why the vast majority of rapes go unreported, we know the hell that will come if we dare to open our mouths. Its easier to just put up and shut up bc the response is worse than the rape in some ways. Just sad.

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  9. Hi Jessica,
    Many thanks for your interesting and well thought out article. I have experienced the “whataboutery” phenomenon too – and not just online by random strangers – but also shockingly from a male relative. (Yes just one man, not all men!)

    Keep up the great work (for both genders!) and all the best for your PhD. The world needs more professional research and intelligent, articulate, caring people like you and your family to kickstart conversations like this.


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  10. This is an amazing article, that I can truly relate to. I’ve always spoken about women’s rights issues based on my own experiences and the experiences of those I know, and I do tend to speak a lot about men’s issues as well. However, the moment I speak about men’s issues, it’s like the world has gone silent, yet when I speak about women’s issues, there’s so much outrage and uproar and for the most ridiculous reasons. This is why we will never stop talking about women’s issues, because people like that prove to us that we’re doing the right thing by talking about it and that society is truly in need of change.

    Thank you so much for writing this 🙂

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  11. Thank you so much for this article, I think it’s brave and illuminating. I founded a charity a couple of years ago (it’s actually been running for 6, but I only applied for charitable status in 2016) which has gained a great deal of respect and won a Scottish Social Services award recently. I have had to defend that it is a woman- and girls- focused organisation since the start and been told I was sexist for only focusing on females. I have had a top specialist practitioner/researcher in this field complain that I was talking about girls when ‘that happens with boys too’ (or words to that effect) DESPITE that I had preceded my own comment with a disclaimer i.e. I was talking about girls because it’s girls I know about and I’m not saying the same isn’t true for boys… I have had peers belittling and trying to dismiss my work on the basis that it’s ‘just about diagnosis of women’ (it isn’t, it’s much much more important than that, it’s about self-identity and esteem, role-models, confidence, mental-health, community, access to services, citizenship). I recently attended an event that presented what was supposed to be a major piece of research that actually states there is no financial differential in terms of health costs based on gender! That of course is because autistic girls and women are still relatively invisible and the idea that they might be mothers, for example is still not even acknowledged by many – that they are still women, indeed and impacted in every area that women are. We still have no actual money and are run entirely by volunteers; we only are still running at all because I managed to get a post with another charity that employ me to do what I do (which includes chairing my own charity) and I can pay my bills. We now have regular monthly meet-ups in 3 cities, run online peer-support forums, have had input to a range of consultations and projects such as the Cross Party Group on autism and I have presented to many conferences, national and international, including 2 last year that were gender/women’s studies events rather than autistic ones. My charity is called SWAN btw, Scottish Women’s Autism Network. I hope you don’t mind this lengthy response, I really just wanted you to know I think what you have written is so important. I see some of the recent responses to you illustrate, extremely well, your point.

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  12. I loved your article and then I read the comments. Only proves your point really but leaves me feeling we really are banging our heads against a brick wall…

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    1. It made me feel the same reading the comments..I almost want to cry. They always want to silence us, they don’t even try to understand..immediatel defensive and all about their inclusion..pathetic.

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  13. Congratulations on an illuminating and enlightening article. Wow – us women have so much more work ahead of us. And yes – the irony of the comments left by the men on this page, only further illustrates how much the dogma and narrative needs to change. I will say this – it’s been interesting watching how much men’s backs get up of late – there is such a resistance by men to take ownership of their gender’s role in the historical denouncement and oppression of women. The ‘rules’ are finally changing. It serves women to no longer continue to act small. Men – adapt to this change or fall way behind. It’s call progress.

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    1. Do you believe, that in daily real life, most women treat men as entitled:
      to wear skirts, culottes, make-up, lipstick, eye shadow, hair ribbons, pigtails, headbands, tiaras, painted nails, long nails, pink or flowery watches, poncho jumpers, high heels, beads, most forms of jewellery, and to use handbags ??

      Do they show no social nastiness, rejection or derision or disdain or hostility? Do they make no assumptions that a man doing any of those listed things is gay?

      If so, where the hell are they??

      If not, where the hell is progress?? and when are you going to take ownership of your gender’s role in the emotional brutalising and machine control of men??


  14. Agree completely with your article.
    A majority of abusers are men. Pure and simple.
    Notice I say majority, not taking away the fact that a percentage of abusers are women.
    But it doesn’t take away the fa t that abuse is a problem with men done and to women.
    The mind set of male supremacy needs to change.
    If male victims want support then please ask, campaign, seek it out but stop demeaning anyone working to end abuse against women and girls who are a vast majority of victims.
    By using the ‘what about men line’ you dilute the abuse, excuse the abuse and invalidate the hard work put end to end all abuse.
    By raising awareness of female victims you are not being sexist, you are early raising awareness of an issue.
    If a vet started a campaign to help get rid of canine flu, would you say ‘what about the cats’
    Both are important but in an unequal world unfortunately need to be address separately at this time.
    I long for the day you can just say ‘stop abuse’
    What are we going to have next, ‘what about the abuser’?
    Rant over

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    1. The point is not all men are abusers. And the way most feminists talk is as if men’s default nature is to abuse them. They don’t say “some” they just say men. Plural. That means YOU too.

      The equivalent would be to talk about serial UK paedophile Vanessa George and say “how do we stop women from abusing children? What is it in women’s attitudes generally, that causes this?” It’s not all women generally its JUST HER and people like her.

      Most men are NOT naturally inclined to abuse women, and most that are couldn’t give a **** about what feminists say about it. They are sick.


  15. Thank you for an excellent article. So true. I’m so glad you have the resilience to continue to express your healthy anger despite all the abuse you get in reaction.

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    1. And if you virtue signal enough, do you think women will see you any differently? After all Weinstein, Clinton et al liked to say they support women.

      A man playing feminist is a white knight in progressive clothing. And let’s face it, we know why guys like you white knight and so do women.

      I’m for equality, but that doesn’t mean I care what all women think of me. Or men. It’s not about popularity. Equality is a balancing, not a pendulum.


  16. Thanks for a thoughtful and insightful piece! It’s so frustrating to read all the tone deaf comments that are proving the points you made. Keep fighting the good fight.


  17. An excellent and insightful article. It reminds me of how, if someone says they are vegan, other people jump in with “You care about animals rather than humans!” as if it’s an either/or situation. Caring about animals does not mean you don’t care about humans, just as caring about women does not mean you don’t care about men. The same applies to campaigning for racial equality or LGBT* rights. Unfortunately it seems to be a common reaction to get defensive and critical at the merest hint that someone’s focusing on those who are more vulnerable and more likely to be abused, instead of making it all about the ones in a privileged position. It was really interesting to read the contrast between your experiences speaking out for males and for females.

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  18. Mr Duncan, you have clearly missed the point. She is saying when she studies and writes about men’s problem women do not complain. When she writes about women’s problems men complain. She puts this down to the misogynistic culture in our patriarchal society, where men feel that everything should and is about them. Women are not allowed to have a voice, or complain, or act and look other than decided by men. Men are allowed to do all of the above. If women speak out they are immediately denigrated. Its a very clear article. Had you read the whole article without assuming you knew what it said, you might have learnt something useful. You missed this opportunity to learn something about someone else’ s point of view.

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  19. This article has just been linked to by a feminist commenter, in the comments on a Herald article. I think linked wrongly – just reporting that the link has been used in that way.
    From a Herald article, by a man, Neil Mackay, that orders all men to regard all men, regard themselves, as part of the problem of violence and abuse, to accept collective guilt by gender, and he condemns and calls part of the problem anyone who makes the point that any men are innocent! An article calling against personal justice and for reckless population hate and persecution. As a good commenter pointed out, does he condemn saying that not all Muslims are terrorists? for his logic does.


  20. I realise I am a bit late to the party. But may I just say Jessica, as a senior academic working in your field – that is the most insightful thing I have read in a long time. Also, here is all the love I can convey to try and balance out a hateful comments section, mostly populated by men complaining that the article that said men didn’t like it when stuff wasn’t about them, wasn’t in fact about them. xxxxxxxx


    1. Men wouldn´t cry about her work, if her work didn´t erase men like me, who was abused and raped by women. Like the whole article is a prove of her hostile attitude toward men ike me.


      1. Yeah.
        This is like walking into a women’s clothing store and asking why they don’t sell men’s clothing, when there is a men’s clothing store right next door and unisex clothing stores nearby as well.

        You are looking in the wrong places for men-specific support. You won’t find men-specific support on sites that are all about feminism because it is focusing on issues women face. It isn’t anti-men either, but it is a safe space for women to discuss things they need to improve their lives and raise awareness so it also won’t revolve around men or men’s issues.
        Likewise, there are also men’s groups such as Men’s Liberation movement which is like the true men’s version of feminism, where you can discuss men’s issues safely, get lots of support to address your needs and find ways that you and other men and women can help men and consequently help each other in positive ways and raise awareness for the real problems and solutions to help men.


        You really should focus on what you need instead of beating on others who do not focus on meeting your specific needs.

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    2. Then get your asses off MRA and MGTOW sites.
      “I am free to comment on any website I like” you will say. Then ditto.

      We’ll keep commenting as long as you keep sticking your noses into our advocacy.

      Feminism is formalised misandry. You are all about undermining male identity.

      Even when it is healthy and not oppressive, and no, that is not a contradiction.

      The tide is turning, fairness is coming for all people, not just who YOU think is entitled to it.

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  21. I am also late to the party. Wonderful and insightful and so helpful to me currently. I started a support group for women in technology and education. As soon as I started sharing it with teaching groups on facebook the ‘whataboutery’ factor kicked in! In one week we have 240 members 100% women. I called it a support group for women. This was posted on teacher groups such as A level computer science. Male teachers who are teaching our children were the worst ‘whataboutery’ not only did they they say what about men… (you know) they accused me of being patronising, passive aggresive, and sexist for daring to start a support group for ‘women’. I need to have a standard response for these numpties. Could you suggest a one phrase to stop them in their tracks with the ‘whataboutery’.


  22. I aplogise for my above comment. I don’t know what I’m talking about. Please delete it.
    Something about you post irked me. I’m sorry.


  23. I’ve hesitated to comment until now but this article has been on my mind ever since a facebook friend linked to it earlier this year. It’s haunted me because it has led me to question a lot of my own behaviours and attitudes (and in a year where some of my past opinions have come back to haunt me). I have certainly been guilty of whataboutery and also a misogynistic streak in my own personality that I’ve never been proud of, but it’s there.

    And there is going to be a slight push back as well, but that will come at the end.

    But firstly I have read some of the recent comments on your twitter, as well as the comments quoted in your post and I am beyond disgusted (words can’t really express how I feel so that will have to do). But the vast majority of them are simply chauvinistic trolling from men (and trolling does seem to be a man thing although they don’t have a complete monopoly) who clearly have nothing better to do with their time. Even the slightly more nuanced comments merit the response that if they are so concerned about men’s issues why haven’t they devoted their time to something like a centre where men and only men can receive specialist help. Like, you know, The Eaton Foundation.

    Which takes me on to my own prejudices and why I might have held them for so long. After all I have never been in denial that discrimination against women is utterly wrong, that girls should be empowered to be whatever they want to be and that far too many women are victims of the most horrific violence and sexual violence. It’s occurred to me that I’m probably setting up a battle in my mind between two non existent fronts. One is the very small number of women who do engage in anti man behaviour; it tends to be very low level stuff such as unkind generalisations although Valerie Solanos still has her followers but can also encompass the rape helpline operator who told a vulnerable young male plucking up courage to talk about a violation he’d suffered that men were not victims. Which makes my blood boil AND would probably boil the blood of many feminists. Rather more so than the chauvinists you have to deal with who probably wouldn’t have any sympathy either.

    The other front? As a male who has always sought intimate relationships with other men I find anti male comments deeply offensive towards the many amazing men who have defined my life in so many ways and who make each day worth living for. And again, feminists wouldn’t dispute this as they see similar qualities in husbands, sons and brothers. I didn’t mean to write in such length but some of it was thinking aloud and realising I’ve always known this.

    But finally, I don’t think that whataboutery is necessarily always a bad thing. Let’s say (for example) a charity focusing on women and girls goes into a school to speak to the female pupils about sexual abuse and to give them a safe space to discuss incidents they may have experienced and to give girls who might be being subjected to sustained abuse an opportunity to come forward and seek help. In that specific instance (and I’m not even sure it happens, hopefully it does) is the question, `what about boys` unreasonable? It is if it comes from the armchair of a man a hundred miles away looking for something to offend him but from a parent thinking boys might benefit from a session of their own (or a teacher wondering why there was a boy hovering around outside while they were setting up). Surely if somebody is willing to organise one for the boys it’s good whataboutery. And even if the charity is girls only are they able to provide some pointers (hopefully they would be). If a bit of whataboutery saves the one boy being abused it’s a good thing?

    And good whataboutery works both ways. It may be that it’s a charity focusing on male suicide going into a school to talk to the boys (hopefully this happens as well, if not it should) and somebody asks what about the girls? Or at a less emotive level it could be an activity pitched at a specific gender because it’s simply seen as more likely to appeal and somebody decides that the other gender would benefit from something similar.

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    1. Hey Andrew – I come from a similar background to you, although perhaps I internalised and settled the debate a few years earlier than you. I read comments and replies here which are “whataboutery”, some of it blatant, some of it trolling, and some of it is hidden in a more intelligent comment.
      I saw one man above even asking Jessica if she would read and reply to his comment. She has no obligation to do any of that, and she did not fall for the bait.

      With regards to your hypothetical situation, I agree with you but allow me to re-frame what it would look like to me:
      1. Charity talks to female pupils about abuse
      Your hypothetical was “what if a parent/teacher thinks boys might benefit from this”
      I would suggest that this is ok, but don’t confront the charity and ask THEM. It’s not their business, their field, or their specialty. But go to the Principal, and say “Hey Principal, that charity gave a great talk on abuse to the females in the school. I’m aware that there is also a potential need for this for the males. Would it be ok if we look into a charity to give a talk to the males? I looked up a few and these seem reputable.”

      If you did want to ask the first charity about it, you could perhaps approach them afterwards and ask “Hey guys, loved the talk. I think that it might be worth getting another organisation in to have a similar talk to the males in the school. Do you know of a similar orgnaisation that works with males?”

      I don’t see how either of the two scenarios above could be considered “whataboutery” as they:
      1. Don’t attempt to derail or demean the original charity’s talk or work
      2. Acknowledge that the work they are doing is worthwhile
      3. Seek a comparable male alternative without placing the onus on the original charity

      It’s possible to stand WITH women, and still support men. This is the first time I’ve seen anything from Jessica but it really seems like she is doing exactly that.

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      1. Hi Dan, thank you for your reply which raised some interesting questions. Before I begin I’m guessing that you’re writing from an American perspective while I’m writing from a UK perspective (we don’t tend to use the term Principal here). I only mention this as there will be a few cultural and administrative differences in the educational systems we know.

        I wasn’t suggesting that I would `confront` the charity as such (even if I was in a position to do so) – and it might also be a specific teacher who arranged the presentation because she has an interest in protecting female pupils from sexual abuse but I do think the question of `what about boys` is a valid one in that context although I agree a lot depends on how it is asked. I’d also say that while Jessica Eaton is right to say that we don’t have to centre men in every conversation sometimes the `not just women and girls` qualifier is important. Obviously not in a scholarly article about rape of women and girls when anybody reading it should know it happens to men and boys too BUT if a room full of fourteen year olds are addressed about sexual abuse with a focus on women and girls, surely the `it can happen to boys too` message is vital for the boy in the room who might not have recognised what is happening to him as abuse before and despite the similarities is confused by the `girls only` message. Of course if there is a boy specific presentation on the same subject next week it’s less of a problem.

        Going slightly off topic but I have been trying to find out how mental health and sexual health (not quite the same thing but they have a knock on effect on each other) is presented in UK schools. While I haven’t found any evidence to support my (misogyny driven – there I said it) conspiracy theory that it’s all girl centred and all boys get are stern lectures on consent I’m still not sure that both genders are treated as equal partners in the debate and I still feel that the 1 in 10 boys who self harm (for example) are sidelined compared to (admittedly higher) 1 in 4 girls, as well as the twice as high suicide rate for boys being rarely mentioned. I’ll add that I have been trying to find a boy centred charity I can get involved in but haven’t had much luck so far.


    2. Every time a centre for men is set up, it is met with obstruction.

      Advocacy for women inevitably means male behaviour needs to be looked at critically at some point. Okay….fair enough. So to advocate for men, do you really think there won’t be criticism of women’s behaviour? Yet none is really permitted without endless qualification.
      Yet prominent feminists will write articles titled “why can’t we hate men?”
      Feminism is hate.. and dismissive responses from them won’t stop it dying out in favour of cooperative egalitarianism. Women are seeing through it, and how it harms their lives.
      If you doubt it, have a look at Karen Straughans channel.

      And what makes you think these guys aren’t involved in advocacy? For one thing, they are doing it right here, by challenging a one sided narrative.

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      1. That’s not true. I set up a male mental health centre, won £700k in funding and have never ever had a problem


    1. Jessica, Your status as a feminist guarantees it. Your motives I am curious about..
      Tell me, do you respect their male identity, when you deal with them? Or suggest ways they could be “better men” according to your perspective? If so, that is like me saying to a traumatized woman, “let me, as a man who doesn’t know what being a woman is like, tell you how to improve on being one” I would deserve the anger I’d get.

      If not, then fair enough.. you may notice I don’t debate on threads where it is purely about women’s suffering. I don’t question the existence of it, or think it’s tasteful to comment on issues that are undeniable.

      These threads comment on men or involve them. We will question your assertions.


      1. I don’t actually work frontline anymore. I built the organisation, all of the constitutions, the policies, I secured all of the funding, recruited and trained the teams, wrote the training, built the website and all marketing materials, built the risk assessments and referral forms, bought and implemented the CMS system.
        We have a team of 12 staff at TEF of men and women from lots of different backgrounds. The service regards men as being whole people living in poverty, trauma or oppression who need holistic and person centred support. This means we have everything in house. I built the org to have everything you could need in one place. Counsellors, peer mentors, finance advice, benefit advisors, housing advocates, legally trained staff, cooking lessons, art therapy, a gym, a music room with band practice, games room, food bank etc.

        You have been on this thread for days now, taking shots at what I do. It’s a shame you hadn’t looked it up, because then you would know how TEF works and you wouldn’t make sure outlandish remarks based on assumptions and preconceived ideas of who I am and what I do.

        We work with the men as humans. They are people, equal to everyone else, who have lived through trauma, violence, oppression, prisons, drugs, abuse, neglect, isolation, bullying etc. They need long term, holistic support with anything they want to address. The support is tailored to what they want to achieve themselves. We don’t do any directed or prescriptive work with men.
        If a man wants to come because he’s scared he will lose his house because he’s in lots of debts with payday loans, we can help. If a man wants to talk to someone about his dad dying and how much it’s impacted his life, we can help. If a man is taking drugs and can’t get employment, we can help.

        We are a very comprehensive and diverse service – the only one in the UK.

        Considering you have spent so much time and energy on this thread leaving offensive and inflammatory comments to me and to others, I hope you are doing something positive for men in need too, I hope you are volunteering or working with men and not just smashing out comments on your keyboard and pretending it’s some sort of crusade to help men.


  24. This is utterly perfect, and really helps with the rage I’m dealing with. I’m so tired of being told I can’t talk about the fact I was nearly killed because “men don’t have access to domestic violence services, you’re lucky” or how I shouldn’t talk about being raped because “women can be rapists too but we just get laughed at as men”. Or who knows how much more shit. I’m sick of it. Thank you.

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  25. Real LIFE…. and when as a mom I tried to have this talk with my pre-teen son as he was just beginning to deal with behaviour from his same-gender-peers and then to discover a few years later, he’d been taken to task by his father who’s words I overheard stating the o p p o s i t e of my advice — his father was encouraging the toxic : “just the way the world is, try harder… ” . Fjihndfi,eh*!!!!!

    Sure there ‘should not be a conflict between parents on values’ but for some reason this topic just falls short over again… each generation. One person holding up the mirror, one day the other may gaze into it ???!!!!

    What really bugs me, I strongly suspect, these who ask “what about me” at once seem to be pushing the male culture/gas lighting but the reverse psychology is….they are actually the very ones who are seeking HELP and DO need it! Do we give them our empathy, or not? At least this author can direct them to an organization?!

    Certainly, I eventually learned this the hard way, the cold fact about my own marriage, no way did I ever see my partner as needy or in need of comfort on this topic from me, he seems to be managing it without being an asshole he was not buying into it until much later in our marriage for some reason he just changed ….and my response other than to acknowledge as a feminist it’s not my job as a female to do anything other than support human rights and equality for e v e r y o n e… and that “yes,dear, we do need to deal with this, and guide our children, the job is to fix our generation/ peers or at least enlighten them”….by example, by our words, in conversation and otherwise.I’m very sure we had this convo before we had children —- except that, yes I definitely saw who is father was, I saw how my father was… and didn’t expect a repeat ….I’m 63 in a few weeks,the marriage ended at year 30 mostly due to his choosing to become his father – how cliche yeah, or just poison that seeps in? My personal awareness is heightened again, I see this around me in too many men, expressed in too many ways, and I still respond to it when I get the chance to get a word in edgewise – which is rare because as above.

    Toxicity feeds on obtuse mindsets, we need to stay in conversation until there is no need for the conversation.


  26. First off, congratulations on the work you do. It IS important to highlight and discuss the issues facing women. That being said the climate for gender issues has dramatically changed and as a man I feel more forced to not be myself and keep feelings and comments repressed at home, the workplace and in public for fear of reprisals.
    As you make great points I do not agree with all of them, at the same time I would not dare speak up as I may be labeled a ‘whatabouter’. This space has been so full of emotions I feel there is no longer room for debate and understanding.
    People need to be able to express their feelings be meet with empathy and land on amicable solutions to better feelings.
    I am sorry that anyone was rude to you for the work you have done but this space has a long way to go before we can work together towards any solutions.

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  27. As one of those men engages in said ‘whataboutery’, perhaps I can offer an insight into why you receive so much of it.

    I think it stems from comments like this, where you stated: “It is not useful to ‘send a gentle reminder than men can get raped too, you know’.[…] It’s not helpful. It’s derailing. We do not need to centre men in every conversation we have.”

    That statement implies that there is so much focus on male victims that female victims are ignored. This is statistically inaccurate and easy to disprove. The vast majority of media coverage, research, and support services are dedicated primarily, often exclusively to women and girls.

    As an advocate for male victims of sexual violence, I would immediately challenge your position because it undermines my efforts to help abused men and boys by framing male victimization as irrelevant and unworthy of discussion. As a victim of sexual abuse, I would challenge this position because it heavily implies that men and boys like me should simply keep our mouths shut because acknowledging our existence takes away from important topics like women and girls.That is the impression it gives, whether intended or not.

    I think another reason you receive condemnation is because of statements like this: “When I write a tweet about women being murdered or raped, I didn’t forget men. I didn’t forget they could be murdered or raped. I didn’t accidentally miss them off my tweet. I simply CHOSE to talk about the experiences of females.”

    Another way of reading this is that you are choosing to ignore the experiences of males. Again, that is impression it gives, whether intended or not.

    Ironically, your position on women’s experiences is itself an example of ‘whataboutery’, so there is a contraction, if not hypocrisy at play. That is going to prompt people to challenge you.

    You also stated that you never see women respond negatively to mentions of men’s issues. In twenty years of advocacy, that has not been my experience. I have witnessed the tendency for women, particularly feminists, to challenge the mention of male victimization with the accusation of misogyny and silencing female victims, often with claims of “women have it worse” or “patriarchy hurts men too”. This past International Men’s Day and Movember have both been excellent examples of that.

    I simply do not believe you have never gotten negative comments for writing about men and boys. I do believe, however, that the people most likely to send negative comments would be less likely to direct them at you because you use language like this: “This is the strongest symptom of a patriarchal society where emotionless males struggle to cope with trauma and feelings, can’t open up, don’t feel safe to talk and become completely overwhelmed by emotions they are taught are ‘feminine’, which further induces shame and stigma.”

    That is very specific feminist language. There is little reason for feminists or women in general to object to a statement that frames men and masculinity as the cause of men’s problems, and women, femininity, and feminism as the solution. You are saying what they want to hear.

    The impression I get from your statements is that you are interested in hearing about men’s experience only through a feminist lens, and any challenge to that ideological perspective is “bad”. Again, that will lead people to challenge your statements.

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  28. Isn’t the answer here really obvious? Nobody is asking what about women because there’s already 9 million studies on the subject. It’s something that receives a lot of funding and attention and has for a long time. Comparatively acknowledging the extent of the problem with male victims is much newer. As much as thankfully, and in some part due to the efforts of people like yourself, this is starting to change most people are still very surprised when shown statistics on the subject and public perception of the ratio of male to female victims versus the reality is heavily skewed towards women. The people who are aware that this perception is way off will want to see that corrected.

    Don’t get me wrong. That explains the good natured what about men questions as for the hate, that’s universal. I’ve done a lot in the past on raising awareness of male victims and I have had so much shit thrown at me for it. You wouldn’t believe.

    Sorry but the conclusions you draw from what you’ve seen are absurd. They’re as absurd as all the people who called me a misogynist for showing them statistics on male victims. You didn’t take the time to consider alternate explanations for people who you admittedly know nothing about other than that they asked you a question in a comment box on your survey. You saw what you wanted to see and nothing more.

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  29. Thank you for your aritcle /s.
    As man who was abused by my SO and then had feminist at shelters sided with her and almost get jailed, there is only one thing i can say about it. Abused men and feminist CANNOT be ally. When you are trying to silence ONLY people that ever care about me and my abuse and rape we can´t be allies


    1. You realise it was feminists who campaigned that men can be raped and abused? And it was feminists who set up male survivors of abuse services?


      1. Really in Au for example there are about 3 male DV shelters and about 1000 for women, Woman & Feminst DV advocates make the assumption its all mens fault even our female feminist member of parliament said its men (as plural) rapes women, men are morons & pigs, you telling me feminists are really caring about men , you madam are telling porky lies


  30. Every time there’s some article on any women’s shelter, even when it’s just a bit of heartwarming news such as, say, school kids raising funds for a local women’s shelter – if the article has a comments section, you can bet that it’ll be full of men and their whataboutery.

    So I call BS on that guy who wrote of course academia would face criticism and charity work wouldn’t. Nope. Some men will take any opportunity to rain all over someone else’s parade.

    Those women’s shelters exist because there are many dedicated people working hard to create them and keep them going. They fundraise, they apply for grants, they do the day-to-day grunt work involved in running a shelter.

    Despite dealing with naysayers, they persevere.

    But apparently men who are constantly saying abused men mean the world to them can’t be bothered to put in this much work as a group. There are a few dedicated individuals who do put in the work, of course. But most just want to sit around and complain that other people aren’t doing enough work. They’re not much real help to the few who are working to gets projects off the ground.

    Is it any wonder, under these circumstances, that there isn’t more work being done? Whether it be research, or shelters specifically for abused men and boys?

    But, oh, they still want to put the blame on those pesky feminists for being the “real problem”. When anything goes wrong, always find some women to blame. Classic.

    Feminists are the problem because they focus more on projects to help women than projects to help men – how dare they serve women more than they serve men? Proper women are supposed to serve men, after all. That’s the thing that’s really sticking in these men’s craw.

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    1. It’s also that feminists also actively demonise and block men’s effective self advocacy.
      This could be interesting:


      1. I am always amused when a man campaigns for women to simply be more selfless and ‘compassionate’ towards men. Like men have not had it their way for the last 600 years and throughout history. No one is listening Joshx45. Apart from missing the entire point of this discussion (and no doubt countless other discussions in the same vein), perhaps you best retire back to your rock where the other meaningless and pointless ‘men’s rights’ groups live. There is a war on women at the moment. Yet – your solution is for us to just simply be good little women and remember to be more ‘compassionate’ towards men. We are done.


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